There is a deep empty hole in the heart of the soul, that must be filled. How we fill that hole, or comfort ourselves with that empty space, will determine what we become addicted to. Without a godly direction in our life, the heart will begin to fill itself more all the time with sin. And as it does, it will become more addicted to that sin.
It is sin (someone else’s, or ours) that ultimately first creates a void in the heart. The void is there because of a broken relationship. And our sin will create a broken relationship with God.
Jesus came so that relationships can be healed. He also sent the comforter of the Holy Spirit, so that every pain that sinful mankind could bring against us, could still be comforted in this life.
“If ye love me, keep my commandments. And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.” ~ John 14:15-18
We cannot receive the comforter, if we don’t come to know him. And we can only come to know him, through Jesus Christ.
And because people don’t know the comforter, they become addicted to drugs, alcohol, or something else. And this usually happens because they are trying to sooth the empty hole of a painful void within. A pain in their heart that usually has happened due to some broken relationship in their past. Perhaps a relationship with their parents that failed. Or a relationship in a marriage that failed. Or a relationship with a child that failed. Or that they lost a loved one. These are the things that often create the most pain in our heart.
And sometimes people seek for relief from that pain, through the wrong things.
Consequently there are lots of people throughout the world that are bound by some kind of addiction. It could be an addiction to a substance, such as alcohol or drugs. But some people have other kinds of addictions. Some are addicted to fleshly things that promise them a thrill, but then soon disappoint them. Things like: gambling or pornography and sex outside of a devoted marriage relationship. Or even being addicted to an idol of some kind, such as following a popular personality, or hungering to become rich.
But the reality is that they have been deceived by these things, because these things seem to give a measure of relief or excitement for a while. But then soon after, the pain remains. And now they have to seek after their addiction in a greater way, to get the same kind of temporary relief. And as this downward cycle continues, it begins to destroy their way of living, including the remaining relationships that they have with others.
“Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.” ~ Proverbs 20:1
This scripture shows us that it is not wise to be deceived by these things. But in seeking for relief from the painful void within, many people become entrapped by something else. And sometimes: someone else.
Of course most of society does not like it when people are addicted to something. They see the addiction destroying that person’s life and family. And they often see these addictions lead to other bad things such as lying and stealing. Or even people sexually selling themselves, so that they might get money to buy more of what they are addicted to.
“It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink: Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.” ~ Proverbs 31:4-5
People who are addicted, seem to lose their sense of conscience and concern for anyone else, but themselves.
But very few people understand why an addict has become addicted.
“Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts. Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.” ~ Proverbs 31:6-7
This scripture above describes exactly why people become addicted. It is because they have a sense of “perishing” in their life due to some situation affecting their life. Or they have a very heavy heart because of emotional injuries, that have never been processed and healed. The addiction becomes their “quick release” from the ugly memory or the emotional pain, or both.
Some people suffer a traumatic physical injury or disease that causes them much pain. And in seeking for relief from that pain, sometimes they get addicted to painkiller medicine.
But as stated before, what they are addicted to, deceives them. Even to the degree, that others begin to sense that the addiction is destroying them.
“Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes? They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast. They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again.” ~ Proverbs 23:29-35
As shown in the scripture above, while they are “drunken” they feel no pain. But as they withdraw from the alcohol and become sober, the pain returns. And so they seek to be drunk again. And as they realize the bondage of their own addiction, they begin to give up hope, because they have no way to stop it.
In most every case, before an addict will seriously seek to get free from their addiction (whatever it is), the shame of their addiction must become greater than the discomfort of withdrawal and soberness. It is when the situation of their addiction has completely humbled them.
It is interesting, because at the core of most of the programs to help people break an addiction, is a principle that was first put forth by the gospel.
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” ~ James 5:16
This scripture states: if you want help with a fault or need, acknowledge your need. That way there can be agreement in prayer — so you can be healed
You cannot cover your addiction and expect to get healed. You must admit to yourself and to others that you have an addiction, and that you need help.
I have known of people who have gotten saved. And when God saved them, he also immediately delivered them from their addiction. And they never went back to it. Because God is certainly able to do that for someone that is ready. Meaning, they have counted the cost of what it would take to quit their addiction, and they were completely willing to bear that cross.
“And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.” ~ Luke 14:27
But most addicts have not counted the cost yet. They first need someone to help them to go through the process of counting the cost.
“For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.” ~ Luke 14:28-30
Because most addicts have not completely accepted, and assessed their own reasons for becoming an addict. They also do not know how to count the cost of what it will take to suffer through the withdrawals from their addiction. And they are not ready to make a complete commitment to living sober. So how could they take up the cross yet?
And so it often helps to work with them through a series of steps, that are based on gospel principles.
These steps help them to gradually understand their own need, and to take hold of their full responsibilities. They then can have faith to believe that God can comfort them, and help them to overcome their own addiction.
“For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world” ~ Titus 2:11-12
But they must be ready and willing to work through this process. That means they must have come to the realization that they have no other hope. And that they must address their sinful addiction. Otherwise working with them through any process or study of the scriptures, is pointless. Because they don’t want it yet. They still want their sin.
A process is a series of steps, that if we follow the steps, we will be better able to understand and have our spiritual needs met. The Bible is full of process-step lessons.
Example: The Old Testament worship associated with the tabernacle and the law of Moses, was a process of steps given by God to be carefully followed. They were to first enter into the court of conviction. And then to wash themselves (like the washing of the water by the word) in a mirror like basin where they could see themselves as they really were. Next the sacrifice for sin needed to be made on the altar of sacrifice. And then they were able to enter into the presence of Almighty God within the tabernacle. And in following this process, God would help them with their spiritual needs.
Jesus himself taught us lessons that show us a process of steps that we should pay attention to, and follow, to get our spiritual needs met. One important example is the story Jesus told of the prodigal son.
First the son left a home in which he had a loving father that gave him good direction for his life. Whenever we forsake a loving home; or whenever we leave a true and faithful congregation: the pathway is always downhill. And for the prodigal son, that is where his life went. As this young person ran with other young people in the thrill of sin, he became addicted to those sins. And soon those sinful addictions even ruined his relationships with them. Quickly he found himself working as a slave for somebody who did not care for him. And in this place, he began to count the cost of what it would take to return to Father’s house. Finally he began to set out on that journey back home.
Additionally, beyond all the step lessons given by Jesus, let’s consider this multi-step process that the apostle Peter taught. In Peter’s lesson, you are not able to proceed to the next step, unless you have completed the prior step.
“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins. Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall” ~ 2 Peter 1:5-10
The purpose of a step program/process is to give direction to those that are addicted. To help them to know how to have faith, and to think differently. And how to make new decisions, and to establish new ways of living that will keep them from falling back into the old addictions again. And ultimately, how to make a full commitment in a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ.
A Christian Based 12 Step Program to Deliver from Addictions – Summarized:
- Honesty – admitting that I have a serious need
- Faith & Hope – realizing we need a Savior
- Trust-Love Dedication – turning our lives over to a loving God
- Courage – to take a complete moral inventory of where we are in our life and heart
- Integrity – admitting to ourselves, God, and someone else, the nature of our wrongs.
- Complete Willingness – we are ready to let God remove our defects
- Humility & Prayer – asking God to forgive us
- Accountability – making a list of those whom we have harmed
- Forgiveness & Restitution – making amends whenever possible
- Acceptance – continuing to take responsibility for ourselves
- Knowledge & Awareness – our continued growing devotional life with God
- Service & Gratitude – we are now ready to carry this message of hope to others